“It’s amazing how much ‘mature wisdom’ resembles being too tired.”
– Robert Heinlein
Having helped raise 7 siblings, I find my parenting energy petering out before my first born is out of the house. This, I realize, can be a good thing. At least today.
Today, I ask my son to develop a proposal for media use during the school year. It shows great wisdom that I let him make the plan rather than offer it myself because he is a teen who needs more and more autonomy.
But the truth is that the wisdom of my initiative-building request came by default. I was too tired of devising policy and policing it so I asked him to do it instead.
Another brilliant idea was to ask him to draft this proposal in writing because we always seem to argue later about what we agreed upon.
But once again, the wisdom of this request stemmed from my inability to remember as well as I once could, and my weariness of doing all the work around it myself.
Sometimes it seems like it was a bad idea to wait to have children until my thirties. Given the developing science around a woman’s brain at mid-life, it may not be wise to have children in the home just as a woman’s internal programming shifts from sacrifice to self.
But then again, maybe it’s a perfect fit for a mother of teens.
Kelly Salasin, August 2010