“In order to help loved ones, you may need to let go of trying to rescue them. It may twist your heart up and frustrate you to no end to stand by while they fumble the ball, to contend with the awful truth that love cannon conquer all, that you can’t do it for them, and sometimes the best you can do is hold their hand while they suffer. Love isn’t like pulling someone from a burning car or saving him or her from drowning. The drama of a loved one’s need is much more complex than that and demands that you weigh right action from wrong action, support from sabotage. There is love that enables and love that disables, and only a tortuous judgement call determines which is which.
(Gregg Levoy, Callings)