It’s Valentines Day, and I wish I wasn’t festering over people applauding a man who shot his teenager’s computer to teach her a lesson; but I can’t help myself.
Maybe Valentines is a perfect day to rant about the nature of LOVE.
Love is not boastful.
Love is not proud.
Love does not videotape himself wearing a Stetson with a stogie in his mouth as he unloads a pistol into a laptop.
But I’m not writing about that today. I wrote about that yesterday. And yes, I know it wasn’t a Stetson, but he wished it was.
What would he have worn if it was his son?
Given Mr. Jordan’s machismo, he might have though twice about publicly humiliating his testosterone-driven offspring. The tragic results of those kind of father-son “lessons” make regular news.
Which brings me to another beef I have with those who claim that this was a case of a child learning respect. As a lifelong educator, I will now turn to the dictionary to address this gross misunderstanding of the word in question:
1 a feeling of deep admiration for someone;
• the state of being admired in such a way;
• due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others: respect for human rights.
Perhaps Mr. Jordan’s daughter respects his aim, his camera presence, and even his follow through with a threat; and maybe that’s all he was after; but my guess is that he wanted his actions to create within her: “due regard for the feelings, wishes, and rights of others,” and this alas, is best taught without a weapon.
Commenters on my original post: a Rebuttal to a Father who used Facebook to Teach His Daughter a Lesson, took issue with the focus on the gun. “It could have been a bat or a set of stairs,” said one. (He also accused me of being a peace-loving pansy and a drinker of Mochachinos.)
And it’s true, both a bat and a set of stairs could have been the tool of retaliation and humiliation; but I’m moving on from that focus to the more insidious act of Mr. Jordan’s intimidation.
A gun is designed for killing. That’s a plain fact. And a revealing one at that.
Would Mr. Jordan still be a hero if he had done this to his son? Would others applaud him? Would they still call his action “love”? And would he be alive to claim it?
And how will Mr. Jordan feel when his daughter marries a man who teaches her to respect her husband in the same way?
Kelly Salasin, Valentines Day 2012