There’s a lot of talk about the “right way” to use spanking as discipline–and to my beloved father’s credit, he always used it in a disciplined manner–only my body/spirit didn’t register the difference.
“The past is an Aladdin’s lamp which (we) never tire of rubbing”
Sitting in Amy’s Bakery next to a plate smeared with jam and butter,
a half mug of hot cider in hand,
the fog drifting over the river, and yoga in my
bones, I am the only one who jumps when a man drops his umbrella.
No one else even flinches,
so I ask myself:
Deep breath, and I hear the hammers banging away at my therapist’s office–yesterday–and the sound of my dad’s footsteps coming up the stairs–a lifetime ago:
muscles tightening across my back and chest.
i cower in the corner of my bed;
but my spine is filled with rage.
A voice rises from the bottom of my gut:
GET AWAY FROM ME!
But that is now;
Then, i plead,
“No, Daddy, no!”
as I cover my thigh with my hand,
and scramble to fit even further into the corner
till my spine burns itself into the wall
i don’t disappear.
The belt slaps, once,
and i am…
Like a dog
i will escape this tiny body, this whimpering tone, and rise above him, like an evil genie out of a bottle,
green and black
booming with power and threat
and he will be vanquished
turned to dust.
Until then, I
I fight injustice;
even though it always ends the same.
of my freshman year at college;
home for the weekend;
playing the white baby grand in the parlor;
the theme song from “Endless Love.”
He calls to me from his room above,
“Kelly Ann, Time for bed!”
My back bristles and hardens.
“Kelly Ann, did you hear me, it’s time for bed.”
I ignore his voice
I need to finish this song
I hope he’ll think I can’t hear him over
the pounding of the keys…
“KELLY ANN!” he booms, shaking my entire life.
Deep breath, and
my fingers continue moving…
I am almost 18 for god sakes!
I no longer need to be told to go to bed.
My fingers quicken,
pretending not to hear,
pretending he doesn’t exist.
that he doesn’t matter,
that his footsteps aren’t coming down the stairs,
that he is not turning the corner,
that he is not 6 foot 4…
“If you want to see what happens then you can just keep on playing,”
exposing his hand.
With another deep breath, I stand and throw down all my cards:
“And if you want to see what happens you can just keep on playing…” I repeat, with my hands on my hips, just like his.
In two strides he crosses the room.
I rise to meet him in all my power;
But i am not the genie;
i am half his size.
Swiping my eye, my cheek
I stand up again
Hot words fly
We move from the piano
toward the couch
beside the marble table
He swipes a third time
and turns to leave me there
on the floor
I do not cry
I have won
or have i?
He has never hit me
like this before;
not like a wife;
I have always been
splayed out over his lap
pants down, age 4, 7, 9;
or bed shirt lifted up the thigh, age 10, 11, 12.
I stumble toward the kitchen for ice;
for a drink of water;
for my keys.
My mother meets me there.
I hold back tears, knowing she’s come to comfort me;
but she doesn’t even look at me, when she says,
“You shouldn’t talk to your father that way.”
I am stunned, and suddenly I see her, really see her:
cloaked in a robe of fear,
unable to feel, anything,
leaving us each alone, in this dark kitchen, where we have laughed and confided and cooked his meals together.
He has hit her too: “Only once or twice when she couldn’t get control of herself,” he tells me.
I drive the empty nighttime blocks down Pacific,
toward my boyfriend’s house;
where everyone is sleeping;
and he is out.
I lie down on the sectional under the bay window;
and stare at the street lights
bringing my fingers to my swollen cheek, my eye,
until I’m icy inside.
When he arrives, he offers to go in my defense,
but he’s not much bigger than me,
and it is over.
I have swallowed it whole.
My father often remarks
that one of us will leave
before I turn 18, adding,
“And it ain’t gonna be me.”
Didn’t his mother say the same thing?
In the same room?
Of the same house?
But it is he, who leaves, again,
when my mother takes a lover
half her age:
my boyfriend’s best buddy, in fact.
She thinks she’ll escape from her frozen life,
until she realizes;
that it’s her soul that needs to thaw.
and when that’s not far enough…
when my sisters still call
“Mom is lying, drunk, on the front lawn,”
“The car window is smashed and there is blood,”
“Dad has called us horrible names, shouted terrible things about her,”
“He’s threatening to send us back if we don’t behave,”
I open the doors onto Overbrook Avenue,
and then return to my studies,
finally putting an Ocean between me and that pain,
with a semester abroad;
so far away, that no one calls,
not even to say,
that my grandmother has died;
that her funeral has already taken place.
Lonely and estranged,
I eagerly anticipate
my father and his soon-to-be fiance’s visit.
They check out of the modest hotel that he had me meticulously find;
and move into the Savoy at Her bidding.
When they go shopping, without us,
my sister orders soup in a silver tureen;
and is later scolded at the price (and the audacity)
though they know nothing of the luxurious bath she took in their tub,
or how she lounged in the thick terry cloth robe afterward;
before returning to sleep on the floor of my tiny room.
At the restaurant,
my father and I;
our hearts and tongues loosened by the succession of wine,
that my stepmother orders,
in the hope of dulling our connection.
We scream about my mother, my sisters,
about everything… lost, wanting someone
I leave our velour booth
and stumble into the dark lobby, sobbing,
on this, our last night together.
I don’t know how to get it back
or even what it is that I want back;
I am only twenty.
My father follows me in quick strides;
Comes at me in the empty lobby;
Raises his hand;
ready to strike…
I become twice his size,
no three times,
and a hiss leaps from my gut:
“DON’T you touch me!”
Stunned, he retreats
to the dinner party,
he has seen both–
his (dead) mother
and his ex-wife.
Alone again, I crumble;
it is too much to be so strong
too hard to hold so much pain inside, alone.
But he will never touch me again
and of this,
I am certain.
Kelly Salasin, 2010